How to Address an Envelope

Figuring out how to address an envelope sure can be tricky! We've created this guide with the most common envelope addressing options, to try and make life a bit easier for you. Please keep in mind that not all of these will work for every family situation, and sometimes you need to use your own judgement in addressing an envelope, as you know your guests' preferences best! If you have any questions about how to address your envelopes, please contact us. We will be more than happy to help you figure out all of your tricky family situations!

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NOTE: Please keep in mind that every person over the age of 16 should receive their own invitation. If you have guests over the age of 16 that still live at home with their parents, avoid sending the parents an invitation that says "& Family". The danger in this option is that it isn't very specific, and leaves room for interpretation. The 23 year old living with his parents might not know if he is entitled to bringing his long-time girlfriend with him - or even if he is invited in the first place!

-------------------------------------- Couples: Married or Not --------------------------------------

Traditional formatting involves addressing the couple by the husband's name only:

However, this is falling out of favour for addressing both the husband and wife (or both partners) equally. It is also common to list the name of the person you are more closely acquainted with as the first person. For example, if Jenny Smith is your sister, you are welcome to write "Mrs. & Mr. Jenny and James Smith". This is a particularly handy tip if you happen to be addressing an envelope to a same-sex couple!

Married Couple: Same last name

Couple: Different Last names
If your couple has different last names, again - list the person you are best acquainted with first. This formatting also applies for those who are unmarried, and those who are in a long-term relationship who are living apart.

Doctors/Judges/Military/ other honourable title:
In the case that one (or both) of the couple is a doctor and they have different last names:

In the case that both of the couple are doctors, and they share the same last name:


-------------------------------------- Singles --------------------------------------

In every situation, it is best to find out the name of your guest's "plus one", to properly address an envelope. However, in a situation where you can't find this out - or the guest doesn't know who they will be bringing with them, this is how you would address it. If the guest is not entitled to a "plus one", simply state their name and nothing further.


-------------------- For guests with special living arrangements --------------------

In most independent retirement homes, residents have their own mailbox and would thus be addressed as any other adult guest. In the case where their mail is processed by staff prior to being delivered, this is how you would address their envelope. It is best to discuss with their Power of Attorney or closest relative to know how to properly address their envelope.


-------------------------------------- People with Invited Children --------------------------------------

To add children to the envelope, simply write their first names only, listed under the parent(s). The same rules as above apply to how you address the parent(s).